Step 8 – “No man is an island…unless his name is Madagascar.”


I borrowed the title of this blog from an old TV ad for Whyte & MacKay whiskey.

However, if you think you’re losing your bottle, it’s best for Dads to step back from the single malt and find comfort instead in knowing that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!

Of course, when I say those words I don’t mean them in a Fox Mulder kind of way. Nor do I mean that there’s someone creeping up behind you as you read this, closing on you with heavy breathing and a wobbling handheld camera. I’m talking about support.

Don’t worry, I’m not getting into the great ‘Briefs vs Boxers’ debate either. I mean that there are plenty of new Dads going through the same things that you are – the same highs and the same lows. Right now, there are lots of men all over the world embarking upon the same journey. Even if you don’t know your fellow travellers by name, it’s reassuring to know that you’re all huddled together in the same boat – and that it’s not the Titanic.

Still, if you feel like you’re all at sea, being battered by your responsibilities,┬áthen there are plenty of ports in this storm.

Why not join a regular parent’s group? Often organized by local councils, they allow you to share experiences, frustrations and tips with other ‘P-plater parents’ in a judgement-free zone. Parent’s groups also give you the chance to make friends and maybe even score a new babysitting option!

How about reading some parenting books? I know some guys don’t like to ask for help. Consequently, they may not make it to the bookshop because they got lost and didn’t want to ask directions. Still you can buy books online at sites like The Book Depository where postage is free worldwide. Books that are written by Dads for Dads, often in a humorous and quirky… step by step…DIY manual…format…

…OK, it appears someone else got there before me.

(Sigh)

Oh well. Since originality is officially dead, why not go ahead and write a WordPress blog? Even if you have no audience, it’s a great way to let off steam. Think of it as digital primal scream therapy and let those fingers flail!

However, if you don’t have the time, or can’t unclench your fists long enough to key in your thoughts, then just follow some blogs. You’ll pick up ideas and perhaps get a welcome laugh. To get you started, I’ll leave you with two parenting blogs that have caught my bloodshot eye:

Dad Down Under is a series of humorous and uplifting posts subtitled ‘Confessions of a Stay At Home Dad’. Charting the everyday adventures that all parents can relate to, this blog is good for fathers who want to feel a sense of ‘solidadity’.

I Made A Human, Now What? is a more general discussion about hot parenting topics and useful products. This blog is also a great source of ideas about what works and what doesn’t.